Everyone is lonely without common divided sense
We try to work according to the idea that every child as a subject tends to communicate with its environment - in their own way with their own possibilities. Therefore, it is self-evident that the child is not the object of treatment. Common divided communication can only develop on a common divided journey of discovery.
Without common divided sense, there is no common divided meaning.
We assume that all the behaviors that the child expresses is always highly appropriate and highly intelligent. These are their protections.
The children with autism are so different that working with them is completely different. Some children could not speak, but write and on a linguistically very high level. Others could speak only in terms of echolalia. Others could neither speak nor write.
Before we begin with the shared journey of discovery, it is important that we naturally have no connection to their ways to express themselves, that we therefore have no expectations and that we must always be aware that what the next moment happens, is completely open.
After analyzing our experiences, the main problem for children with autistic symptoms is that they can not develop social protective skin during their development.
Before birth, the child has triple biological protection: through the amniotic fluid, the uterus and the womb. After that, it is vulnerable to the foreign world if the mother and child fail to train a social protection mechanism instead of the biological one. Without social bonding, the child is blocked from developing from the social being to the individual. In order to develop a social bond between mother and child despite the infant's hypersensitivity, it is beneficial to give him as much closeness as he needs, while at the same time providing the necessary distance. That means to take it without touching it. This idea took shape in El Greco's work "The Birth of Jesus". Mary and Joseph protect and hold the child. They dare not irritate it with their looks and their hands.